It’s not like a saloon, it’s more like a club for men and women…who don’t drink for the sake of drinking but for the company.Burgess Meredith
It takes time to build community. Flexibility and kindness allow people to comfortably enter and leave at will — kind of like how we are free to choose play or not to play. When people are free to choose, often it’s just a matter of time until they come around to play.
Pubs are historically an epicenter for play in community. British pubs in particular are charming for their history, traditions, and rules of engagement.
In a wonderfully antiquated US Military Training film “How to Behave in Britain” Burgess Meredith nails the do’s and don’ts of play in pubs. In this culturally sensitive and funny tutorial he drives to the root of play. “Until they finish doing what they’re doing they like to be left alone. Just give them time, they’ll come your way.”
For a more contemporary (feel good) look at ‘pubs and play’ check out “The Fisherman’s Friends” on Netflix. Or, listen below to the real fishermen live at Folk 2014.